Another aspect of this discussion has to be the care that the man had for his woman in the Old Testament. This is seen in a variety of locations.
In the story of Ruth and Boaz, Boaz takes up the cause of Naomi not having kin and Ruth’s husband’s death by being her kinsman redeemer. Jacob was willing to work for Laban for 14 years to get Rachel, his daughter. Proverbs put a high value on a good wife. The whole Song of Solomon places the physical and intimate parts of a married couple, putting emphasis on the love between the couple.
Way before chivalry, the Bible showed the proper relationship between a man and a woman– showing His love for us. He had Hosea marry a woman that would be prostituting herself to show that His love was above His people’s indiscretion.
Too often in our culture, people say that they are incompatible– and yet God’s example for a relationship between the sexes is unconditional love for each other. Even those that are Christians say that infidelity could cause a person to leave the other– and yet the Hosea example shows that God will never leave us.
Take comfort in God’s unfailing love in the midst of our failure to be like Him. Practice and learn to live a life of love in which you love despite what others do. Others will fail you– God never will. We marry a sinful human being and we are sinful human beings– yet God calls us to a higher standard.