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On Friday, the Connecticut Supreme Court ruled 4 to 3 in favor of legalizing same-sex marriage in their state, overruling a state ban on the activity.
While I could wax eloquent on how amazing it is to find this right in a document that has been translated only one way since the time it was written in regards to marriage, I’d like to instead focus on the question of “Why Support Traditional Marriage?”
Attacked or Degraded
Is it fair to say that Christians getting divorced are doing more damage to marriage than same-sex couples? According to the Barna Research Group, Baptists are the highest percentage of groups getting divorced, beating out un-churched 29% to 21%.
While this is a sad statistic in many ways, the problem with this is that it doesn’t take into account for the fact that there are fewer Baptists that live together without being married than the un-churched. I would believe that if you included them in the calculation you would find these numbers changing.
But that doesn’t change the weight of the argument. Divorce hurts marriage. The easier it is to get divorced, the more it hurts one of the core principles of marriage—that they are until death.
All About Love
The second attack on marriage comes from the constant bombardment of the idea that marriage comes after love (and even in our entertainment you don’t have to get married any more).
While marriage is about love—the long term commitment to your spouse regardless of what happens—it’s not about the feeling. The feeling can come and go, it can be sustained through work, but it is not guaranteed.
This is the second plank of marriage that is being actively undermined—that of unconditional love.
As An Example
At this point, the same-sex marriage proponent starts speaking about committed relationships. They talk about higher commitment levels. They talk about not being worse than their heterosexual counterparts. The problem is that this undermines the last pillar of marriage: That it’s between a man and a woman.
When God set up the marriage covenant in Genesis, he set it up as a relationship between a man and a woman, and described everything else as fornication. Every sexual relationship outside of a heterosexual marriage is prohibited both in the New and the Old Testament.
Why Support Traditional Marriage?
Because it’s the best thing for everyone—including those who claim to have the desire to practice homosexual relations. Being born with it is not an excuse. We’re all born sinners. We’re born liars, cheaters, and there are many things that are wrong that we are born to do. That doesn’t mean that we should do them.
Because it’s the right environment to bring up children. Studies have shown time and again that children do their best in a home with a father and a mother. Not two dads. Not two moms. This does mean that we have to reinforce marriages, and fix broken divorce laws. It does not mean we offer an alternative that is not the best.
Because it spares people from God’s Wrath. God declares that He hates sin, and will judge the sinner according to His sin. Personally, I don’t want to see God’s judgment on anyone. I would rather all come to a saving knowledge of Christ and enter into a personal relationship with Him.
Since I know that will not happen, I would like to encourage people to realize that they will reap natural effects from their sin, and judgment from a Holy God.
Because it shows our best—it shows God’s love. God’s love is unconditional. No matter how much I sin, His Son’s work done on the cross saves me from it.
Same thing with traditional marriage when practiced correctly. The couple shows God’s type of love for each other. And that’s one of the biggest reasons to defend and support traditional marriage.
Honestly, I have to argue against the whole anti-divorce stance. I’ve lived in a household where both parents hated each other. They tried to hide it, they tried to fix it, they prayed to God, consulted their pastor, and they even went to couples counseling. Even with all this, my mother was pushed into depression, my step-father was pushed into depression, I was pushed into depression (thankfully not as severely as my parents), my little brother cried at the drop of a hat, and the only one that wasn’t affected, my little sister, can’t tell when people are angry.
Since the divorce occurred, the whole world has gotten better. My mothers depression is completely gone, she’s gotten remarried to a man without control issues and who shares interests; the depression I had is completely gone, I no longer live my whole life on my computer and have good friends in real life too; my little brother only cries now when he’s hurt or someone yells directly at him, no tears over messing up on math anymore. The only one not to get better is my ex-step-father and he hasn’t gotten any worse he’s just still depressed.
Of course, this is all just my personal experience, but honestly every marriage I see that stays together for the kids is harming them more than helping.
Wow…..that was more off topic than I expected it to be.