It’s really interesting being a new dad– more so being a new mom, I can tell– but as any “new” parent knows (whether it’s your first or your fifth) that new “bundle of joy” brings a lot of attention. No, not the “changing diapers, up all night, and you have to feed me now” kind– that’s not what I was talking about. I mean, now people that may never have said “boo” to you before want to come up and comment on the baby and talk to you about everything to from if she smiles to who she looks most like.
This makes the parents feel proud– God did the work, we can take the credit. The question, Godly Wife, is how do you make your husband feel? In Proverbs 12:4, Solomon talks about just how much control you have over how your hubby feels:
A virtuous woman is a crown to her husband: but she that maketh ashamed is as rottenness in his bones.
Yikes! Obviously, there’s a lot that goes into the first one. A crown can mean many things. In my mind, it first means that you can make him feel like a king. Obviously, a crown does not change the person’s position. Just look at the story of the Prince and Pauper (been reading the Mickey Mouse version of this a lot to my oldest son). The Prince was still the Prince, even in the Pauper’s clothing. But it’s the way that the crown carries authority. Are you magnifying his authority– making him feel like the king?
Do you adorn him? I’m not asking if you’re trying to be a “trophy wife”, but when they look at you do they exalt him? Do you build him up or bring him down.
The second part of the verse is scarier than the first. I hope that none of you bring your husband shame, and yet it is so easy to get caught up in what we’re doing that we miss what the other is trying to do. Whether it’s in our plans, in our idle conversation, or in the manner in which we treat one another, we can bring shame on our spouse. As wives, it’s important to remember that what you do (especially in public and in front of the children) has an effect on your husband, and you should avoid shaming him, as it is as rottenness in his bones. No amount of milk will fix that!
Question Idea taken from Questions for a Godly Wife
- Godly Wife: Is He Your Master?
- Godly Wife: Who Are You Seeking to Please?
- Godly Wife: Are You His Helper or His Obstacle?
- Godly Wife: Does Your Husband’s Heart Trust in You?
- Godly Wife: How Do You Handle When He is Wrong?
- Godly Wife: How do you Handle Disagreements?
- Godly Wife: How Do You Receive Correction?
- Godly Wife: Are You Drawing Him to You with Your Speech?
- Godly Wife: How Does Your Husband Grow?
- Godly Wife: Who Trains the Children?
- Godly Wife: How Do You Make Your Husband Feel?
- Godly Wife: Are You Intimately Available?
- Godly Wife: Do You Speak To Your Husband with Flattering Words?
- Godly Wife: Are You Helping Your Husband to Greater Heights?
- Godly Wife: Are You Keeping Your Wedding Vows?
- Godly Wife: Do You Dominate Your Husband?
- Godly Wife: Have You Cut the Cord?