I couldn’t wear black as a child. It was too sophisticated.
As a mother raising three daughters in today’s culture, I wish all I had to worry about was the color of their clothing. My poor sisters remember when all their friends were wearing pants with zippers while they were condemned to polyester and elasticized waist bands.
Zippers were masculine!
I first started thinking about modesty in regards to my children when my oldest, just shy of four, pointed out that the women on my aerobics video were practically naked. In between step-touches my mind exploded. I’m desensitizing my children in my own living room! Forget my little girls, I’m the innocent victim of the fashion industry! And I’m the mom!
Let’s face it, we are surrounded. We live in a sexualized culture. Forget the swimming pool. It’s in the mall at the lingerie stores, on posters, in music and MTV, on the DVD covers at the video store, magazine covers at the grocery store and even in our churches.
We can’t continue to stick our heads in the sand. I’ve found myself looking to others in the church for my standards, but sadly realized that in doing so, I was allowing my standards to slip. It may be up to you to draw the line and stand up for virtue and purity. Who can find a virtuous woman, indeed?
The obvious way to promote modesty (besides modeling it yourself!) is to point out the wrong and right way to dress. This doesn’t have to be a judgemental free-for-all. Make a big deal over how feminine and beautiful Mrs. So-and-so always looks, and praise your children for their right choices. Find them teenage role models who exhibit modesty. As they grow and become teenagers, spell out the reasons leaving no room for doubt.
If we don’t do more to advocate modest apparel, we’re selling our children over to lust. The church needs to produce Prince Charming’s motivated by love not lust, and chaste women who don’t promote visual adultery.
The fashion industry is beckoning, and modesty needs to ‘walk tall and carry a big stick’.