In our last post1 we talked about some reasons that people have to remain pure before marriage. We need to have strong reasons for why we will remain pure or else “in the heat of the moment” we will compromise our decision in order to go further than we believe we should.
Such is the nature of sin—it keeps you wanting more, it wants you to get as close to the edge as possible, instead of staying far away from it.
After you’ve chosen why you are going to remain pure, write it down. Write it down somewhere that you will remember. When you find yourself in a relationship, or starting to get interested in someone, make it known up front where you stand, what you believe, and why you’ve made the decision that you’ve made. You may even want to tell your family and ask their help in keeping you to what you’ve decided.
Having made the decision, and made it known, you will be more honest and up front with the girl/guy that you are dating, and you will have made your desire clear.
If a the other person does not respect your decision, and you’ve taken the time up front to explain it, then you will be more able to put a halt to a relationship headed in the wrong direction before you are tempted to break your decision.
If the other person says that they’re going to work to get you to change your mind, you know that the person does not respect you, and you should leave. The point is that you know what you want, you’ve decided before you were in the relationship, and it should help you to make clear choices as a relationship starts.
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