In the wake of the hack on the adultery seeking website with a famous name, many are talking about cheating– the last taboo in a land that seeks all sorts of sexual deviancy proclaimed as acceptable. And one adulteress tries to make the case that she actually has helped marriages!
It reminds me of many passages in the book of Proverbs that talk about how serious adultery is. Nothing good comes from adultery, from being unfaithful, and from not following after the wife of your youth.
Oh, and to answer the question, husbands are to blame for being unfaithful– they committed the act, and they bear the responsibility for it. No amount of justification on their part pardons their sin, and even allowing themselves to entertain the idea is wrong. This is exactly what Jesus was talking about when he told men that even looking on a woman to lust after her is wrong.
Adultery in Bible times was punishable by death of both the adulterer and adulteress– the cheated on partner bore no blame.
That’s not to say that there’s nothing that someone can do to help protect their marriage. There obviously are many things. What it is to say is that the party that commits the sin bears the responsibility for it.