I think that the first time that I actually realized how much the culture had changed as far as what was normal in dating relationships was when I had conversations with my friend in college who was a Hall Leader (RA) on the girl’s side of campus. She told me of announcements that had been made to the girls about how some of the girls had been taking pictures of themselves in their under-things to send over to the boy’s side of campus, and the effect it had on the boys and on those that developed the film.
It was then that I realized that even on a Christian campus we have lost the concept of keeping oneself pure and covered until marriage. And admittedly, it is difficult when the culture around you seeks to sell everything with sexuality.
And if it’s going on at Christian colleges, you know it’s worse in the world:
“I’ve seen everything from your basic striptease to sexual acts being performed, You name it, they will do it at their home under this perceived anonymity.” – Detective Brian Marvin, a member of the FBI Cyber Crime Task Force of Central Ohio. [Hat Tip: Carla]
There are no magical solutions, and I fear the situation is only going to get worse. You can tell by our entertainment– movies where the happy couple doesn’t get married at the end, but they move in together. We’ve come a long way from Chitty Chitty Bang Bang where “they kissed, now they’ll have to get married.”
The sheer volume makes it so that you practically have to become Amish, remove the television, etc. to avoid the messages that it sends. And this may be what Christians may someday be forced to do.
Clara has some words of advice I think I spot on:
A young woman’s body should be kept to herself, and saved for her husband. End of story. She’s not a product on a shelf with a sign that says “try before you buy” and if she is, it will be to her deep sorrow and regret (and her future husband’s) later in life.
Right on. Our young men have to be taught to guard their eyes and to not lead young women along and our young ladies need to be taught to cover up. Both need to keep purity at the forefront of their minds.