Today’s culture has told young women that in order to be truly liberated they must engage in all the activities in which men participate. They are encouraged to have casual sex, to enjoy their bodies and that they should disregard their emotions.
The problem is, they can’t. And the scarier reality is that there are books and tools out there that take advantage of the fact that deep down a woman’s opinion of herself is attached to what the men around her think of her. And that this self evaluation is tied into whom she allows in her bed.
According to How to Succeed with Women, the trick is quite simple– make sure that you have sex with you as soon as possible so that you change the rules:
When you are seducing a woman, you want to spend as little time with her as possible before having sex because the less time you spend with her, the less time you have to make a mistake fatal to the seduction. . . . Every unnecessary interaction is just another opportunity to bungle it up. Before the date, a woman is looking for reasons to get rid of you. Earlier we talked about how, when a woman dates someone, her orderly existence becomes shaken up. . . . In some corner of her mind, the woman you are interested in is looking for some justification to get you out of her life. The more time you give her to find one, the more likely she is to do just that.
Once a woman has had sex with you, the rules change. Now instead of trying to justify getting rid of you, she’s trying to justify why you were worth having sex with in the first place. Instead of being on the hunt for your bad points, she’s more likely to be on the look out for the good.1
Obviously, this isn’t advice on how one should get a wife, but how a man can take advantage of the feminist movement. This isn’t about finding the right woman to settle down and have a family with, this is all about taking advantage of women– and the sad part is that women don’t even realize it.
What’s sick is that it probably works. Men manipulate women, they convince them to do things that they shouldn’t and cover it in the shroud of being empowered, and women buy into it. And before they know it, they are having to justify their actions, or live with the consequences of a mistake.
If we truly loved our girls and our young ladies, we would be encouraging self restraint. We would teach them to demand that men be gentlemen. We would teach them to consider personality before sexual prowess. We would teach them to value commitment instead of pleasure. We would build them up so that they would know that they have value that’s not derived from whether a guy finds them attractive or wants to share their bed, but from who they are, from what they’ve accomplished.
There is a way to true freedom for women, but it’s not to be found being sexual toys for men. It’s found in realizing who they are (they’re God’s creation– inherently worth something to Him who sent His Son to die for them) and that all these external things are just that. They must also realize what they truly want and desire– and that their emotional needs will not be met by a guy seeking to use her for his pleasure.
- Girls Gone Mild, p. 201 quoting How to Succeed with Women