There is a movement in both Christian and non-Christian circles that suggests that couples are better off if they wait to have children. The logic goes something like this:
- Children are a lot of work.
- The couple needs time without the work to get to know each other.
- Children benefit from couples with strong relationships.
- Therefore: You should wait to have children until the two of you have an identity together.
The problem is that this feeds exactly into the current mantra repeated by the pro-choice movement: That children are work that can be avoided– and you want to avoid them because they mess up your life.
So, we subconsciously tell our young married couples that they should wait to have kids. Wait until they don’t have as much energy. Wait until they have more of a career and they’ve bonded around that. Wait until they’re getting old, and some of the best years of their children’s life will be spent with aging grandparents.
You see, it fits into the society’s view that you have to live for yourself, and have everything now. Don’t plan for the future. Don’t do things that may be difficult now so that you can reap later on.
It takes great faith to be like Anna and trust God to control how many children they have and when. It may be that God wants you to have more children or sooner than you have planned– but if you’re looking at kids as a burden or as something that you are trying to put off having until they are more convenient, then you are actually conditioning yourself with the wrong view.
Children are a blessing from God. They’re a maturing influence. They add more to your life than you’ll even imagine.