The interesting thing about the whole lifestyle debate that swarms around abortion is the place that sexual activity plays in the discussion. In fact, it goes to the core of the whole phrase “Pro-Choice” and what choices we have. Framing the debate, one side consistently paints the picture that people (specifically teens) will have sex– almost like they do not have a choice. This is far from the truth, for at each stage of the relationship choices present themselves. However, what I find interesting is duality of what’s being said…
I can’t remain abstinent, but my partner better be!
A survey was done recently in India which revealed that most Indian men want virgin brides, but what was more shocking was what else was discovered:
Nearly two-thirds of young Indian men expect the woman they marry to be a virgin, but nearly half have had sex with prostitutes, according to a poll.
The survey of more than 2,500 men aged between 16 and 25 conducted by India Today magazine across 11 cities found that 49 percent claimed to have had sex with a sex worker while 37 percent said they had had a homosexual experience.
But 63 percent of young men in conservative India said they expected the women they married to be a virgin.
Even in this day in age of feminism, equality between the sexes, there is still the expectation of the woman being pure. This is a good thing— because if the women are pure they can have higher expectations! That last part is key. A pure woman should demand and expect purity– and then the quality of relationships will be raised throughout. It’s when women will settle for an alley cat that we have problems.
It’s good for me to experience sex before marriage.
This comment ranks right up there with “I should live together with a guy before I marry them” as things that have a pseudo logic to them but are foolishness. If you put aside the whole “my wife/husband will be the first/only one to experience this unique gift with me” argument, there are many reasons why people (including teens) should not be having any kind of sex. Sex harms teens emotionally…
Teenagers often suffer emotional consequences from having sex, even when it’s “only” oral sex, a study published Monday suggests.
Researchers at the University of California San Francisco found that up to one-half of the sexually active teenagers in their study said they’d ever felt “used,” guilty or regretful after having sex.
And that’s not even getting into the whole Sexually Transmitted Disease realm, and over to the abortion debate. In fact, there are so many reasons why you should abstain from sexual relations until marriage that it’s almost easier to list reasons why people think they shouldn’t! And those all revolve around having fun.
At least some are treating sex seriously.
A club was created at Harvard to promote abstinence after a couple saw just how lightly it was being treated:
Sometime between the founding of a student-run porn magazine and the day the campus health center advertised “Free Lube,” Harvard University seniors Sarah Kinsella and Justin Murray decided to fight back against what they see as too much mindless sex at the Ivy League school.
Harvard treats sex — or “hooking up” — so casually that “sometimes I wonder if sex is even a remotely serious thing,” said Kinsella, who is dating Murray.
This couple is trying to promote the message that you are worth waiting for, and that sex is a big thing– not something to be taken for granted. Unfortunately, many have taken to mocking them, discussing their sex lives graphically in front of them, and prove that it’s not always easy to take a stand for what is right. It may not always be popular, but I doubt that you find many that are abstinent by choice that regret waiting.