A while back, Holly asked a question, and I thought I’d take the opportunity to share my answer to that question in a post. The question is “Would you choose marriage – all over again?” This question sounds a whole lot deeper than it does at first reading– because (next to salvation) marriage is the biggest, life changing decision that a person can make.
It’s something that I learned later in life, but I can’t figure out exactly when it dawned on me. Maturity, to some degree, comes with a denial of self. As we go through life, we continue to enter into arrangements and make decisions that force us to deny ourselves and put others first. If I were to track this back to the first big decision that everyone has that does this, it’s probably learning to share one’s toys in Kindergarten. But it quickly grows into serious life altering things when you get married.
Marriage to me meant a lot of changes. Changes to my habits– no more being on the computer all night from the moment I got home. Changes to who does the chores in the house– my mom did too much for me, and I’m learning to actually spot when things need to be done (but it’s always a battle :blush:). It also meant that I’d have to share my money, not just with my wife, but with my children.
But it also gave me someone to share my life with. It gave me the blessing of children that call me “Dad.” It has given me prayer support. It has given me the chance to provide– to reach outside of myself and lift others up.
Would I get married, all over again? Certainly. I believe it not only fulfills me, but allows me to show Christ’s love. Is it difficult? Sure, but nothing that’s worth it isn’t.