For some time now parents and others have been repeatedly told that what their kids see and how they play have no impact on who they are or what they become. This philosophy is very pernicious– even seeping into our churches.
One of the things that I think shows this the most is the fact that parents have come around to the logic– for one reason or another– that “kids will be kids” and there’s nothing you can do about it. You can’t hope to have good teen years– because all teens are rebellious. You can’t have a good 2-year-old, because they all go through “the terrible twos.” If a child does not want to follow God after he gets out of a Christian school, it’s not the school’s fault.
I think this all boils down to how we, as parents, deal with the life that we’ve modeled for our children, how we’ve raised them, and what we allow them to spend their time with. Look at what this small community is going through:
The pictures posted on MySpace.com looked like the latest installment of “Girls Gone Wild.” In them, cheerleaders from McKinney North High School in Texas exhibited all variety of bawdy behavior. One shot showed a bikini-clad girl sharing a bottle of booze with a friend. Another featured a cheerleader and several other girls in risqué poses offering glimpses of their panties. But the most infamous photo of all was taken in a Condoms To Go store. Five smiling cheerleaders dressed in uniform posed with large candles shaped like penises. At least one of them appeared to be simulating fellatio. “It would be an overstatement to describe any of the photographs as pornographic, but it would be an understatement to describe them as harmless high jinks,” wrote Harold Jones, a lawyer hired by the school district to investigate the incident. “Quite frankly, I personally found it ‘creepy’.”
All over the country, in big cities and small, parents are being confronted with children that are pushing their boundaries, becoming more and more obscene, and in the mean time parents want to find someone to blame– someone that isn’t themselves, or the school they like, or the practices that they have.
It would be easy to attack Hollywood– they are constantly putting out filth. But how are we controlling what our kids are being saturated in? Where are they deriving their values? What you watch, what you do– those things effect what your kid thinks about what is right and wrong.
So yes, the Hollywood culture doesn’t just stay in Hollywood– but you have the power to control what enters your home and what your kids think is right. Are you engaging your children or letting the other influences dictate who they will be?