I find myself musing today on something said in the movie “Chitty Chitty Bang Bang.” It’s the part when the children are at the beach and the two children muse about whether or not her dad (played by Dick Van Dyke) will end up marrying “Truly.” It’s at this point that one of the children says “Well, has he kissed her yet? Because if he kisses her then they’ll have to get married.”
This came back to mind after reading some of the statements some kids said about love and marriage over at the Last Homely House:
WHEN IS IT OKAY TO KISS SOMEONE?
1) When they’re rich.
— Pam, age 7
2) The law says you have to be eighteen, so I wouldn’t want to mess with
– Curt, age 7
The rule goes like this: If you kiss someone, then you should marry them and have kids with them. It’s the right thing to do.
– Howard, age 8
My guess is that young Howard has seen the same movie. But really, what innocence. What amazing innocence and simplicity to say that you shouldn’t get involved physically until you are ready to make a commitment.
What a time we find ourselves now in where we have storylines with people in all states of relationships– into them, out of them, breaking them, forming them– and everything isn’t as clear as “if he kisses her, then they’ll have to be married.”
At that time and place there was something romantic, something special about people coming together. There was something special about the building of passion toward a marriage– not sleeping together until they decided to break up.
Where are the stories that encourage us to love a person for who they are instead of what the look like? The stories that encourage us that remaining chaste is something special– that even a kiss is something for those bound to be married.
Those simple times reinforced what we believed relationships should be and encouraged us to strive for a high mark– what do today’s say?