I never went to a dance at my high school and I barely survived the dance lessons we had to endure in physical education class (which we still called “gym class”). Then again, I also claimed not to have any kind of emotional desire to have a girlfriend until I was in my late teens– so call me strange.
I was asked if I was going to attend dances, especially the prom, on various occasions. Each time I turned it down. Not only was it something I didn’t think that good Christian young people did (and this was a public school), but I had no desire to be seen dancing with someone!
Now, however, there’s much more going on than what used to pass for dances. Schools have had to stand up and put the brakes on dances because they have gone from a social outing to a time for a new sexual style of dance:
A furor over what Concord High School administrators call an “overtly sexual” style of dancing at school dances has split the school community: There are those who defend the students’ right to dance however they want and those who believe the moves are just plain inappropriate.
Principal Gene Connolly is with the latter group. He said the school will cancel all remaining dances, including the upcoming homecoming dance, unless students step forward to help halt the “grinding.”
“This style of dancing is wrong,” Connolly told parents at a Parent-Teacher-Student Organization meeting Tuesday night. “If you were to see it, you would be equally offended.”
Asked by parents to describe the dance, Connolly offered this: The girl leans forward and the boy puts his pelvis against her backside. Then, he thrusts.
“It’s feigning a sex act,” Connolly said.
But some students and parents don’t see it that way. They say that like the jitterbug and disco before it, grinding is just a sign of the times.
“We were raised to dance like that,” senior Kayla Bisson said.
And here lies the divide. Parents are seeing their children becoming more and more sexualized, and the children continue to say that since this is what they’ve always done that makes it right. That excuse sounds like a lot of adults I know!
Parents have created their own nightmares, though. If any of these parents were to watch what is passed off for entertainment on the likes of MTV they would probably find what they see on the dance floor of these local high schools to be tame. Indeed, Madonna’s now touring with an act where she pretends to be crucified on a cross– and we won’t go into some of her previous acts on stage.
When you feed children a continual diet of “this is what’s cool, this is the way to dance, etc.” you can expect them to think that it’s right. Then someone comes along with a moral standard and they are the ones that are told that they don’t know what they’re talking about. It’s the frog in the pot of boiling water all over again. It’s obvious to outsiders looking in, but because those on the inside think that it’s fine because they’ve worked their way (removing inhibitions step by step) up to this act, that makes it fine.
Let me be clear, I believe that there is only one possible acceptable place for co-eds to dance: with their spouse and only after they’ve been married. There’s too many things going on during dancing anyway without this grinding and other obscene stuff that is being justified because “it’s fun.”