Rebecca Hagelin has been tackling the issue of modesty in clothing for a few articles now. The current article is an encouragement to parents that are looking for modest clothing– it is out there. What I found fascinating was the stand that they took in their house regarding visitors that come in dressed incorrectly.
Occasionally, a girl visits wearing something inappropriate – a midriff-baring shirt, a short skirt, a low neckline. I smile and say, “God made you a person of value. You’re somebody special who deserves to be respected. So when you’re in my home, I want you to dress in a way that reflects the treasure you are. So let’s go upstairs. You can pick out anything you like to cover up while you’re here.” There may be a gasp – often, nobody’s ever told them that their body is a treasure to be respected. But then they get it. And you know what? A bond is created, and they appreciate what I’m doing.
Also, she makes a good point about how clothing impacts men. Speaking as a man, I can tell you that how a girl/woman dresses definitely inpacts my impression of them– clothes say a lot about a person, and the majority of clothes out there now are advertising something I don’t think fathers want
their daughters advertising.
Women and girls who decide to dress modestly often have another surprise in store – men and boys treat them differently. In the book “Dressing with Dignity,” former model Colleen Hammond explains why:
I believe it is because, subconsciously, men can read women’s body language. If they see a woman who dresses with dignity and carries herself with grace and femininity, they pick up on that. They take it as a sign to approach her with the respect, reverence and honor a woman ought to have.
Exactly. And if a girl dresses like a streetwalker, they pick up the opposite
message. Is that the signal we want our daughters to send?