If I were to try to detail all that’s been going on the past month, I think I would need a lot more space than this field will allow! One of the themes I would like to present to you and see what you think:
Around February a young lady that was a friend of a couple of my siblings needed a place to stay. She had been coming to church pretty regularly and had been coming over to my parents house after those services and at other times for meals and such. She had decided to attend the same college as those siblings when she graduated this past spring.
Knowing of the girl’s attendance at church and how she reacted with my family, they accepted her in based on the description of her family’s treatment of her– which seemed intolerable. My family provided food (even taking her out to meals) shelter, and had very little rules– including a curfew and knowledge of her whereabouts in case people wanted to contact her. She had a cell phone, so this didn’t seem like too much to ask.
As time progressed, my sister got closer to her, and they did many things together. It was discovered that some of this girl’s friends were homosexual males. My parents advised her that they would not suggest
that she, as a new believer, should be hanging around these people and did not wish to have them around their house. The girl believed that since these were her friends that had been with her though “thick and
thin” that my family was being unreasonable. She continued to see them.
As time got closer to college, she expressed reservation about going to college. In the mean time, my family had helped repair one of her vehicles– that she turned around and gave back to her parents. She
planned on going on a mission trip, but bailed out a day before to “spend time with my mom before I go to college.” She never ends up at her parent’s house.
She then goes down to college, rooming with my sister. My parents get her things from WalMart and then
leave. She complains on her journal about being lonely and missing her friends. She spends all of her time there on the phone and computer talking with people back home.
After three days of classes, she leaves on a Sunday night while my siblings are at church, leaving a note. She then posts a message on her message board saying that my parents are “disowning her” and that she can’t understand why they are upset. My brother posts something about how much they’ve done for her, and her friends come rushing to her defence, calling my parents unloving, judgemental, and in some cases evil.
Now the mischaracterization continues. My mother wanted her stuff out the day she came back. She called and asked for two weeks– since that’s when she’d have an apartment. My dad told her two weeks was fine. She posted on her website that he was forcing her to remove her stuff in two weeks. She replies in the e-mail that she’s going to need until Oct 1, but that she could move it out on Sunday. Her posts also read that she’s moving in with one of her “homosexual male” friends.
What would you do/say about all this? Would you let her wait until October so as not to have your name defamed even more (since most of this journal is read by area people) or say “move out on Sunday”?